Came across a very interesting theory of TAO…so sharing here…in my own words. So I beg forgiveness for any mistake commited…
Philosophical thinkers tells us that inside every male there is a female side and inside every female there is a male sides… so brush up ur female sides. And in any case soul is considered as female lover and GOD male…soul is considered married when she is merged with her husband- PARAMATMA..
Here is how a soul can learn to merge in her beloved and find eternal love according to Tao theory..
RECEPTIVITY- females are considered receptive. They are empty inside waiting to be filled. Females takes while males are givers..They are like a hole waiting to be filled.
GOD is a giver. HE is constantly giving only soul is not yet receptive enough. Become like a female who is waiting constantly to receive what ever GOD chooses to bestow.
WAITING- when a female loves she waits without becoming aggresive. She constantly and lovingly waits for some one she loves. She won’t argue. she will just wait…
When the soul is a seeker of that eternal truth, becoming immersed in arguments with GOD…constantly trying to out judge HIM about ur own progress and arguing over why u r worthy to receive HIS love…instead be like a female. Waiting lovingly for beloved to bestow HIS love. Humble and waiting….like a lover waiting on the door for beloved to arrive. Yearning yet loving. Imagine a nagging wife who is waiting for husband to reach home while he is being late. No…that won’t do with our BELOVED… be like a heer who is waiting yearningly for her ranjha to arrive…
Completely finish urself, let not a single line remain and then there is no limit to ur winnings…
LOOSING- Laotse says when a man thinks about woman he thinks with the emotion of winning her. How to win her love. While when a woman thinks about a man she thinks with wanting to loose herself.. how to be wined over by him, her man. She takes pleasure in loosing not winning. To win HIS love a soul has to learn to loose herself. And HIS love is her’s . it’s the art of loosing that wins the heart of beloved.
TIME- for a man loving comes last. He considers other works more important. He feels that finishing those works..his job, his meetings his projects.. those comes first. Now this is universal truth and every woman can vote for this. Males thinks that if time permits after doing all these important jobs, then he can indulge in love. But females they consider loving their top most priority, everything else is secondry. Their only complain from their partner is lack of time for being with each other. While GOD the eternal beloved loves time given to HIM.. spent in HIS company and remembrance. Male when they love someone even then their eyes seeks other beauty, while female once love a male will never think of looking at anything. Females are then considered possessive. And yet this is what HE asks for. Complete possessiveness. Complete devotion with exclution of every other thought.
So be like a female ..and love HIM with complete possessiveness and devotion. Giving HIM all the time… and HE will never say like all those males when they are faced with this possessiveness or demand for time and their attention…that I can not always remain with u.. no..instead GOD will love the soul only for this more and more…
Ohh!! What a relief.. for females can now have the one true lover they always seek,…. :)
There is a wonderful quote- “love becomes complete when the prayer becomes saturated with love. And for this time is needed.”
SILENCE- if we see two lovers together, we will find males talking much and female listening contentedly. [we are not talking about married couple][ that’s a joke]
A female lover loves to listen to her lover talking . though she can talk so much which man comes to know after marriage. But a lover knows how to remain silent. She loves his voice. And they remain silent… silence is one thing where the soul can hear her beloved’s call.
There is a quote—“there are only very few soul’s who are fortunate enough to know how to be still enuf to hear GOD talk."
We all know that merging in GOD we need to practice silence. To let go our ego which generates thoughts. And never let us hear HIS voice. For HE will speak when we are ready to hear HIM.. not before. So be like that “ preyasi” who loves to hear her lover talk. And sit silently to hear his voice.
BECOME A SLAVE [ SURRENDER] - females call themselves “ daasi” and actually becomes the queen of lover’s heart becoz of her surrender. She completely surrender herself to her lover. All he says and do is right. She has no will or need of her own. She is happy with what ever her lover thinks and do for her. In fact she waits very patiently and lovingly for her lover to come up with a surprise to make her happy. And with such a lover her beloved wants to surprise her just to see har face lit up with happiness coz he knows whatever he will do for his lover..she will be filled with loving pleasure.
Imagine the soul’s beloved arrested in her love so much that to see her happy the beloved can go to any length. Imagine that wonderful stage of love. And that can come thru complete surrender coz when the soul will always feel pleasure in what ever her beloved chooses to bestow..the beloved feels compelled to see her happy. In fact HE still is waiting desperately to make HIS beloved" us” happy…only we never learn to surrender our own definition of what can make us happy. A true lover always knows instinctively what will make his beloved flush with happiness. And who else can be called true lover then HIM???
Females never feel small in surrendering their own self to the one they love. Be it husband or kids. They can make sacrifices for her loved ones happiness. And so learn from females to happily make sacrifices for beloved. “No price is too big to win HIS love”.
NO DISTINCTION[ ABHED] –
“ niyaaze ishq k eek aise bhi manzil hai,
jaha hai shukar shikayat kisi ko kya maloom.”
Prayer is demand or thanks. Don’t make ur love a prayer. Coz it is filled with either demand or thanks for things bestowed by beloved. Thanks becomes a formality. Which says…yes u have given me a lott. But tells that it is not accepted by heart and mind.
There is a wonderful story.
When Keshavchand became disciple of Ramchandra and started walking on spiritual path. One day Ramchandra asked him” how do u pray to GOD? What is ur method. Keshavchand replied I say thanks to GOD for giving me this path which I never deserved. Ramchandra became disappointed. And said these words..” u say thanks to GOD!!!! ?? if HE hasn’t given u eyes wud u then have said thanks? No u wudn’t have. Whatever GOD has given to u for which u say thanks . had HE not given to u then to whom u wud have said thanks??”
Saying thanks is also a way of complain. It’s enough that u r in front of HIM.. first stop demanding. For what do u say thanks? Everything is HIS so who are u to say thanks? If one hand gets hurt and other hand puts medicine ..will one hand give thanks to other? For taking care of it? Both are same ..so where are thanks here? Soul is just a drop of same ocean. When soul thinks with her ego she becomes separate when actually only HE is everywhere. There is no division.who says thanks to whom?
When love becomes deeper..lovers become one, merges in each other. GOD and soul becomes one. There is left not enuf space to distinct them from each other…
“ I am HE”
then there is not even space left to say thanks.
COMMITMENT- When a female loves she starts thinking about getting married while males start thinking about how best to avoid commitment. Loving HIM needs the commitment of female. As soul prepares herself to get married to her beloved and ways to woo HIM to make that commitment to become one. Become like that female who is constantly thinking of nothing else but how to make beloved commit HIS love for herself..only..for all eternity. Coz earthly relation may skip or break commitment. But HE if makes a commitment of love..it is for all eternity. HIS love is our’s for all eternity. Oh what a relief. :)
In the end here is a quote from one of our MASTER—
When man and woman starts walking the path in the beginning woman gets success more easily. Becoz they know how to love and love deeply. So they become successful. But after some time man gains more on path becoz they know how to stick to commitment while woman’s attention gets scattered with many attachment she carries.
These are not actual words. But meaning is safe.
A woman becomes wife and mother and daughter … and divides herself in many attachment , to nourish each relation. But man can stay at a time attached to one only.
So it’s for the soul to decide where to become a female and when to take up male tendencies….
Females out there wanting to walk the path brush up ur female tendencies, and males out there walking on the path take out the female side sleeping inside u.
Biggest example we can find is the great lover and mystic Bullehshah. Who for beloved became such a lover that HE wasn't afraid of HIS own female side. Infact HE was complete lover.
coz no price is too high and no way is too big to win HIS love.....
:)
peace and bliss to all
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